![]() Yes, we already have a dog, but Maggie is, well…. A male companion that would love him unconditionally. A “bro” he could trust, share his feelings with, and love with his whole heart. And then it crossed my mind that he needed a fun and loyal best friend. I agonized over solutions to this problem. Gman’s counselor suggested I find a family friend or trusted neighbor to spend a little time with him once a month just doing “guy stuff.” Although we have wonderful friends and neighbors, they have their own families and busy schedules. It’s almost worse for him in some ways when I try to fill that role. I’m sure to ruin things with maternal worry about the danger of fire instead of providing the Tim the Tool Man Taylor testosterone moments he craves. Although I can and will do these things with him and for him, it’s not the same. He wants to build fires, learn about tools, wrestle around, shoot some hoops - all the things boys often do with their Dads. There’s an extra layer of loneliness he feels as a young boy without his father. ![]() The void for Gman is different - not bigger or worse, but different than the one the girls are experiencing. It was just my way of expressing my endearment to the man I loved and the boy that would one day grow to be an equally amazing man. “There’s my favorite boys!” I’d exclaim as I walked into a room where they were both playing a video game or watching a show we girls had zero interest in viewing. Before his Dad died, I would often refer to them as “my boys.” Not only has he lost the man he most admired, but also he’s found himself the only boy in a house full of girls. ![]() As I’ve written before, Gman has had a really hard time without his Dad here. I have to tell you the story of Charlie and how he came to be part of our family.
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